Monday, 9 February 2009
Ok, so I haven’t updated for a while, but I’ve been busy. Busy being happy! Mostly.
It’s going great with Sarah. It really is. And I don’t really want to say any more than that. I’ll happily talk about most things in my life but if it closely involves another person I’m not going to talk about it here. She does read this site now as well so I have to be on my best behaviour! Hi Sarah!! *Innocent Smile and Wave*
So I’m obviously happy that I am now in a relationship. I’m also happy that I get to dress more often and actually with someone, and I’m happy about the upcoming skiing holiday I’m going on too. I have more than the usual amount of things to be happy about, let’s say. There are still problems, but I’m not going to linger on them tonight. There’s another reason for me to be writing.
Recently, I have been flattered with the amount of messages of support and general niceness from people seeing my pictures, videos and blog. It’s been great and even though I’ve not managed to reply to many (any) I hope you all realise I am thankful. But there have been a few different types of messages recently. The kind that has moved me quite a lot and makes me wish I had the time to reply to each one personally. Young, possible transgendered people seem to be coming forward telling me I’m a role model for them and they are turning to me for support in their current situation. People asking how they should tell their parents and things like that. Now I never said that I was good at giving advice, the best I can really do is let you know of my own current situation and hope you learn from mistakes I may make and have made. I am no fountain of transgender knowledge, so a good idea for me would be to send you to some places that are.
First of all you will want to try and understand how far you actually want to go with this. You may be transsexual, you may be a crossdresser, you may be a model railway enthusiast on the wrong site. No matter what, this test will give you an idea as to how far you might want to take things, but don’t on any account take it as 100% true. Some of the questions are, in my view, a little stereotypical, and everyone is different, but I haven’t found a better test online for this sort of thing.
Disclaimer: It won’t actually tell you if you should be a model railway enthusiast, but generally if you like trains, you like small fiddly things, you have a spare room and a lot of spare time, model railways are probably for you.
Anyway, I digress. If, once completing that test you come up with ‘possible transsexual’ or something similar, then you might want to look at this next site. It is probably THE best site on the net for transsexuals to be. There is a ton of good advice on that site with a special section for young people that is definitely worth reading. The sheer amount of information of that site may seem daunting at first, but it’s all good stuff.
I genuinely am sorry I’ve not been able to reply to you personally, I know just how hard it is being in your situation, I’ve obviously been there myself. But know this, as long as you are true to yourself and your main priority in life is your own happiness you WILL have the life you want to lead. You may or may not be transgendered, but that doesn’t really matter, YOU deserve to be happy no matter who you are.
That reminds me; there’s a brilliant song I’ve been hearing recently, you may have heard it but I’ll show you anyway. It has a great message to it and this video just made me that little bit happier, and nobody in the world can say that’s a bad thing. The song is “Wonderful” by Gary Go. This video isn’t the official one as far as I know, but I think it’s better. This song for number one when it comes out on the 16th February!
For some reason this entry was not easy to write, it has taken about a week to edit and adjust so I didn’t sound too preachy but at the same time give some good advice. It’s difficult and I can fully appreciate anyone who has to advise people daily on potentially life changing things. It’s quite scary!
I will leave now, but before I go I want you all to say “I Am Wonderful” out loud. Say it, go on. I have. “I Am Wonderful”. It’s a healthy thing to do. Self appreciation is something nearly everyone needs to do more often, so do it!