You Are Wonderful

Monday, 9 February 2009

00:58

Ok, so I haven’t updated for a while, but I’ve been busy. Busy being happy! Mostly.

It’s going great with Sarah. It really is. And I don’t really want to say any more than that. I’ll happily talk about most things in my life but if it closely involves another person I’m not going to talk about it here. She does read this site now as well so I have to be on my best behaviour! Hi Sarah!! *Innocent Smile and Wave*

So I’m obviously happy that I am now in a relationship. I’m also happy that I get to dress more often and actually with someone, and I’m happy about the upcoming skiing holiday I’m going on too. I have more than the usual amount of things to be happy about, let’s say. There are still problems, but I’m not going to linger on them tonight. There’s another reason for me to be writing.

Recently, I have been flattered with the amount of messages of support and general niceness from people seeing my pictures, videos and blog. It’s been great and even though I’ve not managed to reply to many (any) I hope you all realise I am thankful. But there have been a few different types of messages recently. The kind that has moved me quite a lot and makes me wish I had the time to reply to each one personally. Young, possible transgendered people seem to be coming forward telling me I’m a role model for them and they are turning to me for support in their current situation. People asking how they should tell their parents and things like that. Now I never said that I was good at giving advice, the best I can really do is let you know of my own current situation and hope you learn from mistakes I may make and have made. I am no fountain of transgender knowledge, so a good idea for me would be to send you to some places that are.

First of all you will want to try and understand how far you actually want to go with this. You may be transsexual, you may be a crossdresser, you may be a model railway enthusiast on the wrong site. No matter what, this test will give you an idea as to how far you might want to take things, but don’t on any account take it as 100% true. Some of the questions are, in my view, a little stereotypical, and everyone is different, but I haven’t found a better test online for this sort of thing.

http://transsexual.org/cogiati_english.html

Disclaimer: It won’t actually tell you if you should be a model railway enthusiast, but generally if you like trains, you like small fiddly things, you have a spare room and a lot of spare time, model railways are probably for you.

Anyway, I digress. If, once completing that test you come up with ‘possible transsexual’ or something similar, then you might want to look at this next site. It is probably THE best site on the net for transsexuals to be. There is a ton of good advice on that site with a special section for young people that is definitely worth reading. The sheer amount of information of that site may seem daunting at first, but it’s all good stuff.

www.tsroadmap.com

I genuinely am sorry I’ve not been able to reply to you personally, I know just how hard it is being in your situation, I’ve obviously been there myself. But know this, as long as you are true to yourself and your main priority in life is your own happiness you WILL have the life you want to lead. You may or may not be transgendered, but that doesn’t really matter, YOU deserve to be happy no matter who you are.

That reminds me; there’s a brilliant song I’ve been hearing recently, you may have heard it but I’ll show you anyway. It has a great message to it and this video just made me that little bit happier, and nobody in the world can say that’s a bad thing. The song is “Wonderful” by Gary Go. This video isn’t the official one as far as I know, but I think it’s better. This song for number one when it comes out on the 16th February!

For some reason this entry was not easy to write, it has taken about a week to edit and adjust so I didn’t sound too preachy but at the same time give some good advice. It’s difficult and I can fully appreciate anyone who has to advise people daily on potentially life changing things. It’s quite scary!

I will leave now, but before I go I want you all to say “I Am Wonderful” out loud. Say it, go on. I have. “I Am Wonderful”. It’s a healthy thing to do. Self appreciation is something nearly everyone needs to do more often, so do it!

Night! X

16 Responses to “You Are Wonderful”

  1. Alex Storm Says:

    I’m so glad you’re ok, in good spirts and everything is going well for you.

    You’re looking and sounding great.

    And now, in a step away from my ‘lexx thinks your so hot’ type of comment and say this.

    I am proud of you. For doing what you can to help people around you.

    I know, it’s stupid to just throw that out there, but I am. You are becoming such an incredible young woman it’s really quite amazing.

    Ok, leaving before I say something really embarassing.

    ‘lexx

  2. Hermione Simpson Says:

    hi ella, it’s great to hear that you’re ok and that it’s going great with sarah, and that you’ve been able to dress more and with someone, and it’s true, you are a role model to so many, because although i’m out as transgendered on a couple of websites, without reading this blog, i might not of been able to out myself to actual people face to face, so thanks ella

  3. Traci Says:

    There is another website that is really good. It is a safe site for all Transgender. It also has a support chat room and mods trained in suicide counseling. Only transgender folks, their friends, family and significant others are allowed. No admirerers. The site is called Lauras Playground.

  4. Exaxis Says:

    Ella. . . it’s damned good to hear from you. You had us all worried. Great to know you were absent for the right reasons though. You’ve put a smile on my face now I know you and Sarah are smiling.
    Stay well and take care.

  5. Anonymous Says:

    Glad to have you back and glad all is well

  6. Danni Says:

    When I started learning about this stuff, the COGIATI test was one of the first things I came across. To me it seemed a little bit sexist. Asking questions about mathematics, spatial geometry and parking cars as if those sort of problems define your gender.

  7. Falcon Says:

    Nice song, I’ve never heard it.

  8. Uncle Eric & Aunt Kat Says:

    It’s so good to see that you and Sarah are doing well – we’ve missed you! Very lovely as ever, Ella, and – indeed – You Are Wonderful! That song is such a nice treat. Take Care.

  9. michael stuart Says:

    I am so happy for you and that your life has got so much better. And that your girl friend is with you and standing by. And your mum will love you for what ever happen’s . You are very nice ,lovely . And if i could say that if i see you in street i will say hello . Good luck in everthing you do . Love from me to you and your family . michael.++++****

  10. Nassef Says:

    First blog I read after wakeup from sleep today!

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  11. Samantha Phayffer Says:

    Muito gata vc menina,,,parabéns,,,,,,sua beleza é única,,,,,,1001 beijinhos,,,Samantha Phayffer

  12. whenhopeislostnothingremains Says:

    Hey hun,

    It’s always a pleasure to read from you…
    Too bad you don’t live in the neighbourhood or we could go on a shopping spree together 😉

    Take care,

    WHILNR

  13. Britania Says:

    I love all the info you given us, I am a TG mtf & i am so much more happier than i ever been, The only thing is that my GF is not fully aware of what is going on, I mean she has purchased all types of undergarments & things, but does not like me to wear makeup & i feel she is not going to be able to haddle me telling her i am TG because she has not seen me in a full girl mode, The people i have come out to say i am super beautyfull & at the clubs people just gravitate toward me, But the one person that matters the most to me is my girlfriend, i am worried & dont want to be allone, Is there any resourses you can recomend? This will make my life SO complete if she was able to accept me. HELP! love your picture. you are SO cute

  14. Adam Says:

    You are wonderful, too. 🙂

  15. Irving Gillis Says:

    becomingella.wordpress.com’s done it once more! Superb writing!

  16. Matt Says:

    Hi Ella, I love your pictures. I work as a semi professional photographer and just wondered if you would let me do a photo shoot. Apart from being beautiful and very photogenic it would be an opportunity to talk to someone else interested in glamour and portait photography. just found your site on Flickr quite hypnotic and loved the pictures. I work as a Lawyer during the day but I have some free time coming up. I can always send you some of my work if you want me to. I’m also on facebook since I can use it as a vehicle to display some of my work.
    hope you’re well Ella.
    Kind regards Matt

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